Tall, Dark and Handsome - The Godly Husband! - A Must Read

OH Yeah! HE IS Tall, Dark and Handsome!

It is a 'DREAM COME TRUE' for most girls to meet a cute, handsome and of course, a romantic guy as her future-husband! 

Girls..please get a grip! That's  not everything! :)





















In general, is this all what a woman should look for in a Man? 

Every female out there should and must know it is very, very important to find that Godly Husband! 

So where do you start? How do you find this 'Mysterious Godly Husband'? How would you know 'HE' is THE Mr. Right for you? Find out by reading about the Mysterious Godly Husband portrayed below. Enjoy & make wise decisions before you get married! 

Solving the Qualities of THE Mystery Godly
 H-U-S-B-A-N-D

(Book - Becoming A Godly Husband -The Hardest Thing A Man Will Ever Do Is Really Love His Wife by Dr. Stieglitz)

H-Honor, which a woman must receive to stay emotionally connected in marriage. 

U-Understanding, which is essential if a man is to understand the unique temperament, gifts and abilities of his wife. 

S-Security, which is the key to a woman’s spiritual connection to her husband. You should be her best friend for life. 

B-Building Unity, which is the constant job of the man so that the pressures of life do not destroy the marriage. 

A-Agreement, which is a system a man must establish and manage so that both husband and wife can enthusiastically support the decisions that are made. Agreeing with God First makes everything smooth. Let go and Let God do the agreement. 

N-Nurture, which means that a man must provide all that his wife needs to blossom as a person, mother, worker, friend, and wife. This needs God kind of Help. Husbands needs to work and Trust God for every need and provisions in both good times and bad. 

D-Defender, which is what the man must clearly become or his marriage, family, and life will be left unprotected and often destroyed. 

HONORS

UNDERSTANDING

SECURES

BUILDS

AGREES

NURTURES

DEFENDS

And Most Importantly HE must LOVE and CARE for his wife and family. Above all He must love  and obey GOD. Now that makes Him the Man of the Household! 

Choosing a Husband 

(message from : Garden of Praise)

Our choice of a mate is an extremely important decision. Once a woman chooses a man to become her husband, he is her companion, the father of their children and the ruler of their home! 

Before a woman gets caught up in the planning of a wedding, she needs to give much thought into this serious matter of selecting a mate. It is vitally important that she select a godly man who will understand what it means to be her head. He knows the teachings of  Jesus and he is a committed Christian meaning a God-fearing man.

It is written of Christ,"He is head of the body, the church; he is the beginning, the firstborn from the dead, so that he might come to have first place in everything." Colossians 1:18 

As God taught the Jews, He gave them commandments to be obeyed. One commandment was their not marrying outside of His people.

"Nor shall you make marriages with them. You shall not give your daughter to their son, nor take their daughter for your son. For they will turn your sons away from following Me, to serve other gods; so the anger of the Lord will be aroused against you and destroy you suddenly." Deuteronomy 7:3-4

God does not want us to marry those who might lead us away from Him. We are warned about marrying mates who are not believers of the Lord and how that can lead us into apostasy. The word apostasy means a rejection of your beliefs (often in favor of opposing beliefs). Another meaning of apostasy is a total desertion or departure from a cause. 

The Old Testament is there for our learning. Over and over we read of people marrying outside their lands into foreign lands. In these foreign lands, the people did not follow the Lord's commands. Anyone who married a person from another land was highly risking falling into apostasy.

"Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?" - II Corinthians 6:14

When I think of a yoke, I have a mental picture of two oxen plowing with a yoke joining them together in that effort. The Jews did not plow a field with an ox and an ass yoked together. The animals had to be of the same breed. God commanded it that way.

"You shall keep my statutes. You shall not let your livestock breed with another kind. You shall not sow your field with mixed seed. Nor shall a garment of mixed linen and wool come upon you. " - Leviticus 19:19

"So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate." - Matthew 19:6 

The Lord God has continually wanted His people to keep in the forefront of their minds that they are separate from the world. 

"Therefore,come out from among them and be separate, says the Lord. Do not touch what is unclean and I will receive you." - II Corinthians 6:17 

We need to stop and put much thought into any marriage proposal. The man you marry will need to have values close to yours, and he will need to be kind and gentle. We should both want a Christian household. 
Is the man you are considering to be your prospective husband a faithful Christian? Ask yourself, "Will he help me get to heaven, or will he turn me away from the Lord's teachings?" We want to make certain he understands we are to be faithful to each other as Christ was to His church. Am I determined to be faithfully devoted to him and him alone? 

If the woman wants children, they both need to discuss this before she buys the invitations. In all decisions the woman and the man need to agree. 
"And I saw the holy city, the new Jerusalem, coming down out of heaven from God, prepared as a bride adorned for her husband." - Revelation 21:2

Before the woman chooses her wedding gown, the man and woman both need to sit down and seriously talk about how they would raise their children. The woman needs to ask herself, "Will he provide and care deeply for me and the children and put us second only to God and Jesus Christ? Has he broken the apron strings or will he compare me always to his mother?"

"Haven't you read, he replied, "that at the beginning the Creator made them male and female and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh? So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate." Matthew 19:4-6

When we think of what that term "homemaker" really means, it is an honor to be able to stay home and make the home a Godly home. Even if you are only able to stay home for a couple of years with your children, you can give them a firm foundation. 

Years ago I heard a story of a young recently married couple. This couple had a car accident. The man's injuries were not serious, but his wife's injuries were very serious, because of the side of the car she was in when the accident occurred. Her face was massively disfigured and she would need a lot of extended surgery to correct her facial injuries. Her surgeries were spread out over a few years. As she was in such pain, her husband rarely left her side. He truly loved and cared for her until her physical beauty was restored. Then he continued to love and care for her, they grew old together. He showed her unconditional love. I was told the story was true.

Now Girl ask yourself these questions: Will he love me as I get older? Does he want to grow old along side of me? Does he want to be married to me until death parts us? Will I be able to balance being a wife, possibly a mother and then needing to work? And will I find happiness being a wife, mother and a homemaker?

Jesus Christ has unconditional love for us. He died for us and rose again and ascended to heaven to be with God, His Father. We need to have unconditional love for our spouses and our children. 

"Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband." Ephesians 5:33 

Seven Virtues of A Godly Husband

(Message by: Brothers of Christ webpage-for Godly husband)

1: Selflessness – Men, in general, tend to be selfish and it is one of the reasons that marriages are failing in greater numbers. A godly husband is selfless, like Jesus. He never focused attention onto himself, but rather always on the Father and then His bride (the church). A godly husband will follow that example by focusing his attention on God first and then his wife.

Jesus taught husbands how to be servant leaders and that is what every marriage needs. Let us learn from Jesus, as He would first go to the Father for instructions and then focus on the needs of the people. As I started going to God every morning for instructions, He would help me to see how I could serve my wife every day, by showing me what I could do that day to make my wife’s life more enjoyable. My reward has been a wife who wants to serve me and an incredible, loving, passionate marriage.

2: Humility – As a whole, men tend to be prideful. We are taught from an early age to be strong and self-reliant. Yet, God isn’t looking for self-made men, He’s looking for men who will humble themselves to His will, just like Jesus did. Jesus humbled himself and set aside His God-nature in order to be a man. In order to become a godly husband, I had to put my pride and ego aside, and submit myself first to God and then to my wife. Instead of lifting myself up as the priest of the household, I began to honor my wife and exalt her as a beautiful and wonderful God-given helper. Godly men are humble servants to God and their wives.

3: Loving – In my counseling, I often hear men say that they have fallen out of love with their wives. This is because they are trying to love their wives in a worldly love. The Apostle Paul taught about a different kind of love in Ephesians 5:25, “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” This is a spiritual love that is unconditional and sacrificial and only available from God.

In my quest to become a godly husband, God taught me that in order to love my wife the way Jesus loved the church, I must first come to Him and be filled with His love. Then I could go to my wife and let His love flow through me. We love each other more today than the day we married.

4: Kindness – Wife abuse has become a huge problem in the world, even in Christian marriages. I have never hit my wife, but like many husbands I was an emotional abuser. I didn't use my fists, but I did use my tongue. Proverbs 18:21 -“The tongue has the power of life and death.” Husbands can speak life or death to their wives with the words they use. As I learned to be a godly husband, the Lord taught me to engage my spirit before letting my tongue loose.

Kindness is a real key to becoming a godly husband. Each day you should strive to be kind to your wife. Compliment her looks, surprise her with flowers, a gift, or fix her dinner. Give her short love notes and special cards that tell her how special she is to you. 

Take her on creative dates and every once in awhile do the chores she usually does in your house. A godly husband realizes how kind God has been to him and funnels that kindness to his wife.

5: Gentleness – The world’s image of a man is rough and tough – the Marlboro Man, but a wife would rather have a gentle husband. Jesus modeled the perfect man by being both strong and gentle. As husbands we are called to be the same.

Many men struggle with control and anger problems. I was one of those who needed to be in control and when I wasn’t I would explode like a volcano, permanently damaging anyone who was around me. My wife forgave the words and actions, but it took a long time for her to forget. In order to become a godly husband, the Lord had to teach me first that He is the only one truly in control and then how to let my emotions out in other ways – through conversation, prayer, and even tears. Yes, real men do cry! Over time, God removed the anger and filled me with His peace that resulted in a more gentle nature.

6: Honesty – Our world is full of dishonesty and so are many marriages. Trust is a huge area for women and most husbands have done things that have strained that trust. Some women, like my wife, come into marriage with trust issues from previous relationships. Unfortunately, I did things that broke that trust and it took many years to regain it.

A godly husband will always tell the truth. Little white lies will damage a marriage, as will leaving out key details that you feel she doesn't need to know. Anything that even looks remotely dishonest to your wife, will damage your marriage.

Godly husbands will be honest and up-front with their wives in all areas. They realize that God made her as a helper and in order for a wife to do that, there can be nothing hidden.

7: Faithfulness – Infidelity, even in Christian marriages, is on the rise. Unfaithfulness falls into two categories – physical and emotional. Most often, men think of physical unfaithfulness as a sexual affair. However, this area also encompasses relationships with other women where you are sharing intimate information that should only be shared with your wife. This area would also include visiting strip clubs. A godly husband never shares his body, or mind with a woman other than his wife. 

The second is emotional unfaithfulness. Many husbands get to a point in marriage where they don’t feel sexually fulfilled and rather than discuss it with their wives, they turn to pornography. Because there is no physical contact, it seems ok. However, Jesus said that if we look at women with lust, we have committed adultery. pornography is rampant, even in Christian marriages and it is tearing them apart.

SIXTEEN 
- HUSBAND MUST DO'S -
 with Your Wife

Love Her unconditionally! 

must have only ONE wife!

Should have Good and Pleasant Authority over Her!

Respect Her!

Tell her she is Beautiful!

Speak Kindly

Be faithful to Her!

Humor Her!

Regard Her as Herself!

Comfort Her!

Dwell with Her for Life!

Consult with Her! 

NO secret's between the two of you!

Not leave Her doubting!

Meaningful Communication!

Trusting God with ALL your Heart, Soul and Mind! 

so Girlfriend!! -- Love is not JUST in His looks, height, weight and color. What matters most is His Heart, i.e, if His heart is right with God. Only Godly characters is what makes Him a Cute, Handsome and of course a Romantic Husband. 

Meanwhile, Woman you must start Praying Sincerely & Honestly for God's right time - If you want a Godly Husband in your Life then Your heart should be so lost in God that a man will start to seek God in order to find you. Keep Praying and Your Prince Charming will arrive in God's Perfect Time. 

Mystery Godly Husband Solved :)

..Enjoy a Blessed Married Life..